Day 15. National Blog Posting Month.
Halfway there!! Thank you for your continued readership!
Yesterday I took the baby to a movie. (!!!) You might wonder what kind of movie theater would allow someone to bring an infant to a show? Well, where I live, the major movie theater company runs a weekly program called “Stars & Strollers”. Maybe you have something similar where you live. It’s basically a movie showing at 1pm where moms can bring very small children, (ie infants and toddlers) and enjoy an afternoon watching the latest releases. The volume is turned down, there’s even a change table at the front of the theater! How awesome is that?
During my first maternity leave, I went to a lot of movies with a friend whose son was born just a few days after my daughter. We saved each others sanity, I am quite sure. It was wintertime and the only saving grace (for me at least) were those weekly trips to the movies. For two hours it was okay if your kid cried. Everyone in the theater would totally understand. I remember having to walk up and down the aisles with my daughter because she was freaking out crying, and it was fine because at any given moment there was at least one other mom doing the same.
Remembering that time led me to think about other things that saved my sanity during that particularly difficult maternity leave.
- Sleep in in the morning. After the husband leaves to take the kids to school, go back to bed with the baby.
- Learn how to eat with one hand. What’s the other hand doing? Balancing the baby on the breast, or on the bottle of formula.
- If the baby is asleep, and you feel rested and aren’t doing the first thing on this list, go have a shower. A long, hot shower. Your boobs will tell you when baby wakes up. (Seriously, this happens to me all the time. I start leaking in the shower and if I listen really, really hard, I can hear the baby crying and know that my shower time is up).
- Go for walks, every day.
- Eat whatever you want.
- Drink whatever you want – in fact, a glass of wine or a stout beer will make you feel 100x better. Scientific fact! (Not really.)
- Don’t be afraid to give the baby some formula, or expressed breast milk, in a bottle. Let someone else feed the baby so you can go out for an hour or four.
- Use a soother!!! There’s no reason you need to be the pacifier.
- Remember: it’s a brief period of time, the sleep deprivation in particular; before you know it, the baby will be a toddler, the toddler a child and you’ll wish you could go back to when they were infants. No, really, you will.
How did you survive maternity leave?