Laughter.

Laughter – a part of human behavior regulated by the brain, helping humans clarify their intentions in social interaction and providing an emotional context to conversations. Laughter is used as a signal for being part of a group — it signals acceptance and positive interactions with others. Laughter is sometimes seen as contagious, and the laughter of one person can itself provoke laughter from others as a positive feedback.[4] This may account in part for the popularity of laugh tracks in situation comedy television shows.

The study of humor and laughter, and its psychological and physiological effects on the human body, is called gelotology. (Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laughter)

This weekend, my husband’s best friend and his wife were back in our province looking for a house.  They moved out West a few years ago and are now returning home.  My husband couldn’t be happier.  He has missed his friend so much.  So, we decided to leave the kids with their grandparents for the night and joined our friends at their hotel.

About 2 minutes into the reunion the boys were acting like the teenagers they were when they met.  Instantly, the jokes started and the four of us were in stitches from laughing so hard.  After a wonderful meal we went back in the hotel room.  Again, within minutes,  the laughing continued and at one point, I was laughing so hard I could barely breathe.

(Recall that I am pregnant, so my abdominal wall muscles are now all but non-existent, and laughing becomes more difficult when there is nothing to support your core.)

As I was falling asleep, the peacefulness that washed over me was sublime.  There was a time, honestly, when laughing like that with friends was difficult.  Sometimes friends just connect, and sometimes that connection fades.  My husband’s friend’s wife said last night that sometimes friends are like old clothes in your closet.  Sometimes you have to clear out the old clothes that don’t fit you anymore in order to make room for the new ones.

As I welcome this new little life growing inside of me next fall, I want him or her to know nothing but the sound of laughter in our home.  I’ve realized last night that won’t be a problem anymore.  The people in my life make me laugh every day; I am reminded everyday how lucky I am and how fortunate I am to have these people in my life.  Seeing my husband with his best friend again just reinforced it for me.

Laughter really is the best medicine and the foundation for healthy relationships.

I hope that anyone reading this laughs with their friends and partners today.

Goodbye, 2012

It’s December 20.  This could be our last day on Earth, if the Mayans had it right.

Have you seen the movie, 2012?  Oh goodness, it’s one of my favorite disaster films.  Did I not mention that in my bio?  I LOVE disaster movies.  Disaster movies are my go-to films when I am feeling down, or sick, or both.  I recognize that I may need some professional help.

As the end of the world year approaches, I started to compose a list of events that defined the year for me.  I tried to put it in a poem (just to be different), but who am I kidding, poet I am not.

So, how does one sum up 366 days?  (Leap year, remember?)

  • I celebrated 10 amazing years with my partner in life.
  • My stunning little boy turned 1.
  • I tweeted a few thousand times.
  • A door closed, but another one opened.
  • I blogged a lot and people are reading!
  • I did a childish thing.  Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. (Ambroise Bierce)
  • I got up off the couch to 5k in 6 weeks.
  • I became a runner.
  • I lost a total of 8 inches, all from running.
  • I shared a wonderful, relaxing summer holiday with good friends.
  • I witnessed the birth of the behaviour of women in the bodies of 3 little girls.  It was a little frightening.
  • I saw my 4-year-old enter the public school system.
  • I experienced the death of two patients through the eyes of their loving family.
  • I enjoyed countless glasses of wine.
  • I saw a few good films.
  • I shed several tears, but laughed a hell of a lot more.

Overall, it was a good year.  There were certainly a few bumps in the road, but that is life.

To all my friends (past and present), and to my readers,  I wish you all a wonderful holiday season and a healthy, happy and prosperous 2013.

D.

A New Year.

It was my birthday yesterday.

I took the day off work.  I have a tradition of attending a spa on my birthday.  I’ve been doing it for the last 5 years or so.  Yesterday was no different.  I spent the afternoon relaxing at a wonderful hotel spa in the city with my sister-in-law.  We were pampered with pedicures and massages with lunch and sparkling wine.  It was so relaxing, in fact, that I fell asleep in the relaxation lounge.  Sadly, I didn’t enjoy their waters because I was a moron and forgot my swimsuit. But tell me this isn’t the most relaxing pool you’ve ever seen.

My day was capped off with a BBQ at home with friends and family.  There really is nothing better than sitting in your backyard, enjoying good food and wine and laughing your ass off with friends.  I feel truly blessed for the circle of friends I have.

Good friends are like fine wine, they only get better with age.  Thank you for a truly wonderful day.